• Nikki, Costa Celebrant

Top tips: Writing Wedding Vows

Updated: Apr 17, 2019

Let's talk about vows. It is a subject I talk about at length with my couples because it really is a very personal choice.

Should you write you own? Would you like me to write them for you? Do you want to read them or have me read them and you respond?

Writing personal vows is very on trend at the moment and can be completely beautiful.

But, I always ask you what YOU would prefer because, at the end of the day, that's what matters. It's YOUR day. You have to feel comfortable.

I always ask how 'gushy' you are as a couple. How much humour you a want to inject into proceedings.

The lovely thing about a Celebrant led ceremony is that you are in the driving seat all the way through. The aim is to make sure your ceremony truly reflects you as a couple.

I have had a bride on Skype the night before the ceremony, having written the groom's vows for him, asking me to change them because he knew he couldn't say them out loud in front of his mates!

I have had a fabulous military groom in tears saying his personal vows.

A recent bride and groom each sent me their vows and they were equally full of humour and personality even though neither had seen the other.

I like to think that, if you opt for Celebrant led vows, you could make 3 or 4 promises to each other - things that you're guests will recognise about you.

If I were writing a promise, one of mine might be that I promise not to hide my shopping bags in the back of the car until he has gone out 😘! My guests would definitely know that is me!

In the process of getting to know you, we can work together to make sure that your vows are exactly what you want them to be.

Thanks to the wonders of the world wide web, there is no end of resources for vow writing. Just like reading a favourite piece of literature, some vows will immediately jump out at you. Let's talk and I will write.

Beautiful handwritten ceremonies: your chosen location.

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