Wedding Vow suggestions to get you thinking!
Updated: Apr 17, 2019
In my previous post about wedding vows, I talked about a 'level of gush'.!!
What I mean by that is how you will feel about standing up in front of your guests and declaring your love. I was chatting to a couple this morning and telling them that about 80% of my couples decline the offer of a microphone when saying their personal vows to each other. I would say that only 50% of couples choose to write their own vows preferring for me to say the words and they just say 'I will' or 'I do'.
As I always say: it's completely up to you! Always!!
You have to feel completely comfortable. I always ask my couples to think of 3 or 4 promises to make to each other even if they decide against writing their own vows. This makes it really personal and can bring some humour into the proceedings especially if they reflect your foibles and quirks!
So here are some suggestions to get you thinking. Google will provide many, many suggestions too.
On this day, I give you my heart, My promise, That I will walk with you, Hand in hand, Wherever our journey leads us, Living, learning, loving, Together, Forever.
I believe in you, the person you will grow to be and the couple we will be together.
With my whole heart, I take you as my wife/husband, acknowledging and accepting your faults and strengths, as you do mine.
I promise to be faithful and supportive and to always make our family's love and happiness my priority. I will be yours in plenty and in want, in sickness and in health, in failure and in triumph. I will dream with you, celebrate with you and walk beside you through whatever our lives may bring. You are my person—my love and my life, today and always.
You have been my best friend, mentor, playmate, confidant and my greatest challenge. But most importantly, you are the love of my life and you make me happier than I could ever imagine and more loved than I ever thought possible... You have made me a better person, as our love for one another is reflected in the way I live my life. So, I am truly blessed to be a part of your life, which as of today becomes our life together.
In sickness and in health: I promise to take care of you, even when you've over-indulged the night before. For richer or for poorer: I promise not to spend all our money at (name of shop).
I, *** , choose you *** to be no other than yourself. Loving what I know of you, trusting what things I will discover. I will respect you as a person, a partner, and an equal. There is little to say that you haven’t already heard, and little to give that is not already freely given. Before you asked me, I was yours and I am devoted to you in every way. I marry you with no hesitation or doubt, and my commitment to you is absolute. Do you take me to be your lawfully wedded husband/wife/partner?
I choose you. To stand by your side and sleep in your arms. To be joy to your heart and food for your soul. To learn with you and grow with you, even as time and life change us both. I promise to laugh with you in good times and struggle alongside you in bad times. I promise to respect you and cherish you as an individual, a partner, and an equal, knowing that we do not complete, but complement each other. May we have many adventures and grow old together.
I love you unconditionally and without hesitation. I vow to love you, encourage you, trust you, and respect you. As a family, we will create a home filled with learning, laughter, and compassion. I promise to work with you to foster and cherish a relationship of equality knowing that together we will build a life far better than either of us could imagine alone. Today, I choose you to be my husband/wife/partner. I accept you as you are, and I offer myself in return. I will care for you, stand beside you, and share with you all of life’s adversities and all of its joys from this day forward, and all the days of my life.
Wayne: Louise do you take me Wayne to be your wedded husband? Do you promise to comfort me, honour me and respect me?
Do you promise:
– to love me as much as you love your shoes.
– to not hold my my obsession with runners and clean white laces against me.
– to embrace my love of discovery programs even when it means you can’t leave the house until you know how to escape quicks and
– to learn how to fill up the screen wash in the car and put air in the tyres from time to time.
– to support my logging dreams and all other hare-brained ideas that may make us richer or most likely poorer.
But most importantly, do you promise to hold my hand, to tell me you love me and to make me smile every day from this day forward.
Louise: I do
Louise: Wayne, do you take me Louise to be your wedded wife? Do you promise to comfort me, honour me and respect me?
Do you promise:
– to love me, even when I sneak new shoes into the house proclaiming “they have been there for ages!!”.
– to continue being the best dad in the world but leave dressing them to me.
– to encourage my wonderful singing voice and crazy dance moves.
– to agree that I am always right.
– to remember the previous point every day of your life.
But most importantly, to hold my hand, to tell me you love me and to make me smile everyday from this day forward.
Wayne: I do.
xxxxx to xxxxx
xxxxx, you are my rock, my heart and my soulmate.
I am the luckiest man in the world today, that you become my wife.
I promise that I will always be there for you. That I will love, cherish and adore you for the rest of our lives together.
I promise that I will always do my best to always provide a home for you which is secure, happy and always filled with laughter.
I promise to love and respect you, to be honest and faithful, and to be your true friend.
I will support and encourage you always to make the most of yourself as a person.
I promise to share all my life with you.
These promises, I make for today, and for the rest of our lives.
xxxxx to xxxxx
xxxxx, I love you, you are my best friend.
Today as I give myself to you in marriage, I promise to encourage and inspire you, to laugh with you, and to comfort you in times of sorrow or struggle.
I love you for everything you have brought into my life, and especially for being a proud and devoted father to xxxxx
Today, as husband and wife, we start a whole new chapter of our lives – but I know it will be a chapter that continues to be filled with love and laughter.
I promise to always trust and respect you, to be honest and faithful – and to support you in everything you do, whilst still giving you space to grow as an individual.
These promises I make for today, and for the rest of our lives.
AND CELEBRANT LED (where you respond only!)
Do you, ****, promise to be a loving friend and partner in marriage, to talk and to listen, to trust and to appreciate, to respect and to cherish ****’s uniqueness? Do you promise to support, comfort, and strengthen him/her/them through life’s joys and sorrows? Do you promise to share hopes and dreams as you build your lives together, and to grow with **** in mind? Will you strive to build a home that is compassionate to all, full of respect and honour, filled with peace, happiness, and love? Do you promise to always be open and honest with ****, and cherish him/her/them for as long as you both shall live? [Each responds, "I do.]
CELEBRANT: Do you, **** and *****, pledge to create a life of mutual respect, compassion, generosity, and patience toward each other as you grow together in years? COUPLE: We do. CELEBRANT: Do you pledge to recognise each other’s individuality and celebrate each other’s uniqueness as a strength in marriage? While at the same time, will you guard one another’s weaknesses with understanding, support, and inspiration? COUPLE: We do. CELEBRANT: And do you pledge to share the love you have for each other with all living beings? To be a couple that lets their marriage radiate into others, making their lives more beautiful because of it? COUPLE: We do.
xxxxx & xxxxx, will you seek as mature people to have a loving marriage, allowing it and each other to change and develop, supporting each other in happiness and sorrows, health and illness?
Both: We will.
xxxxx, do you take xxxxx to be your wife, to share your life with her as an equal partner, and to continue to build a full and caring relationship based on trust and respect?
xxxxx: I do
xxxxx, do you take xxxxx to be your husband, to share your life with him as an equal partner, and to continue to build a full and caring relationship based on trust and respect.
xxxxx: I do.
Do you, xxxxx, promise to be a loving friend and partner in marriage, to talk and to listen, to trust and to appreciate, to respect and to cherish xxxxx’s uniqueness. Do you promise to support, comfort and strengthen her through life’s joys and sorrows? Do you promise to share hopes and dreams as you build your lives together, and to grow with xxxxx in mind? Will you strive to build a home that is compassionate to all, full of respect and honour, filled with peace, happiness, and love? Do you promise to always be open and honest with her and cherish her for as long as you both shall live?
xxxxx: I do
Do you, xxxxx, promise to be a loving friend and partner in marriage, to talk and to listen, to trust and to appreciate, to respect and to cherish xxxxx’s uniqueness. Do you promise to support, comfort and strengthen him through life’s joys and sorrows? Do you promise to share hopes and dreams as you build your lives together, and to grow with xxxxx in mind? Will you strive to build a home that is compassionate to all, full of respect and honour, filled with peace, happiness, and love? Do you promise to always be open and honest with him and cherish him for as long as you both shall live?
xxxxx: I do